What If I’m Being Discipled by A Younger Person?
In my previous blog, I have attempted to answer the question, Should We Disciple Older People? I wrote primarily for disciple-makers or disciplers. In this blog, I’m writing for disciples who are discipled by someone younger than them.
When a disciple is discipled by a younger person, almost inevitable comes to him the thought of looking for an older discipler. But to look for an older discipler is not always a good idea.
I’m here to give practical counsel (and hopefully it helps) to disciples who are being discipled by someone younger than them and is possibly thinking of looking for an older discipler.
So disciple, before you ask yourself, “Should I look for an older discipler?” I think you should first ask yourself the following questions:
1. Have I given my discipler enough time to model me an exemplary life? Most of the time, we are too quick on concluding that younger people cannot help at all. Whenever we do this, we are despising their youth. First Timothy 4:12 says:
12Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.
In the verse, the apostle Paul is encouraging Timothy, a pastor in the Ephesian church, not to let anyone look down on him because of his age, and exhorts him to win the believers by setting them an example. So with your discipler who is younger than you, do not look down on him. Give him time to model you an exemplary life.
2. Have I humbled myself and fully submitted myself to his discipleship? This can just be a pride issue. We can’t bear the thought that someone younger is truly living an exemplary life and is discipling someone older like you. We do not fully submit to his counsel, consequently, and we prefer to look for another discipler, ultimately. So make an assessment first; check your true motives.
3. Have I been praying for him? Living an exemplary life is not easy, especially when the one trying to live it is discipling people who are older than him. We immediately give up on our disciplers without even saying a prayer for him. So pray for him.
So disciple, don’t be too quick. Ask yourself the questions above. Only when you have reflected on the questions and are satisfied with your answers can you consider to look for an older discipler.