Gary R. Collins on Relationships and Change
In his book Christian Coaching, Gary Collins wrote on the power of relationships in bringing positive change in a person. I strongly agree and can very much relate to his statement. Here’s the quote:
“I’ve been a Christian since childhood and a psychologist for most of my adult years. One significant lesson that I’ve learned on this life journey is that people change when they’re in relationships. We can learn a lot from private times of journaling, meditation, prayer, and contemplation. I’m a voracious reader who loves books and constantly is stretched and challenged by reading. Almost every day I carve out time for solitude and each week I try to take a longer period to retreat for reflection and communion with God. These times away from people leave me refreshed and renewed. But despite this, I know that the greatest and most lasting change comes when I’m involve with others in relationships.
To be human is to be connected to others. Unless you’re a hermit, you live in a world surrounded by other human beings. Good human relationships can shape, encourage, teach, motivate, and build us up. Good relationships can restore us, be stimulating, provide healthy accountability, and enable us to better understand ourselves. In relationship we experience the greatest joys in life and the most fulfilling sexuality. We can better understand the love, forgiveness, fellowship, and compassion of God when we see this reflected—even imperfectly—in our fellow human beings. The richest people in this world are those who have a cadre of caring, supportive friends whose company they enjoy”1.
1Gary R. Collins-Gary R. Collins, Christian Coaching (Colorado Springs, Co.: NavPress, 2001), 33-34.